In a previous blog, Pain Means Comfort is on the Way, we looked at one aspect of emotional pain. Today I want to look at pain from another angle that I learned from Dr. Wilder. As I talk to people about their emotional pain, they seem to fall into a couple of categories: those who […]
Parenting Tip–Minimizing Upset
The following are a few tips that will help minimize upset beginning in the toddler years, but will also work as well when older. For as long as you can, use distractions to avoid escalating to “naughty.” Young children can be creatively distracted. Play children’s music CD’s or tapes in the car. Not only will the […]
You May Have to Ride with a Skunk, but You Don’t Have to Brush Its Fur!
I love this quote taken from my book Jewels for My Journey. Dr. Jim Wilder said it to me when he was helping me learn not to beat up on myself when I failed, messed up, made a wrong decision or just plain irritated someone. He had much to say about that and there are […]
Parenting Tip–Sharing Power
A few years back, I heard Dr. Wilder talking about sharing power. I think I already knew the principle without knowing the words to describe it and it was helpful to hear what he had to say about it. He writes extensively about power in his book The Red Dragon Cast Down. He says that children notice […]
Parenting Tip-Preventing Sibling Rivalry
Any family with more than one child wants help with preventing sibling rivalry. Even with one child, this beast can rear its head with cousins or friends. The best way to prevent or eliminate rivalry is by not negatively comparing your child to anyone else, especially a sibling. No comparing You will not have rivalry […]
Pain Means Comfort is on the Way
Whenever I make this statement, ‘Pain means comfort is on the way,’ I see a look on people’s faces that seems to be saying, “You’ve gotta be kidding.” Comfort during pain doesn’t seem to be the norm in most of our lives and I have yet to say it to anyone who already understood it. […]