I recently published a new book, Becoming a Joy-Filled Woman. This is from the chapter on codependency. When I first met Dr. Jim Wilder he defined codependency as, “Making my decisions based on another person’s response.” I like that this one is plain and to the point. It’s easy to see that fear is the basis […]
Our Brain’s Kindness Circuits
One of my passions is to help people find and use the kindness circuits in their brain. Knowing how to use them can be life changing. Children can learn. Sometimes we call these our relational circuits (RCs) or our joy center. In Ephesians 4:32 we read a description of how God wants us to relate: […]
Renovated: A Book Review
This is a book review of Renovated by Dr. Wilder. I’ve read this book many times and have most of Chapters 3 & 5 underlined. I was looking for answers to: “how is an individual transformed?” Most recently I have been reading through it along with one of my Joy Groups. I highly recommend it […]
Texting Appreciation Revisited
A few months ago I did a blog on texting appreciation to build joy. I want to revisit that concept with a guest “blogger,” my granddaughter, Kayli. We began texting each other every night in April 2021. Recently one of Kayli’s appreciation was “I appreciate life beyond depression and hopeless despair.” When I read this […]
Texting Appreciation
Almost a year ago I got an idea from my friend, Annie, to try texting appreciation to one of my granddaughters. Kayli was struggling with anxiety. She was open to me texting her every night at 10 PM. So I set my phone’s alarm and began texting appreciation to her each night. 1) Something I […]
Do You Have a Pandora Problem?
Several years ago I began to learn something new about the subject of narcissism from Dr. Jim Wilder of Life Model Works. He informed me that most of us did not know what to do with the emotion of shame. I highly agreed, saw quickly that I was included there, and wanted to know more. […]