In Part One and Two we talked about the importance of knowing when our relational circuits are on or off and what to do when they are off. Deliberately going to an appreciation moment is the easiest and quickest way to calm our brains when we are upset, enabling us to get our RC’s back on. […]
TRIGGERS:Calming Your Brain When Upset-Part Two
In Part One we looked at how to go to an appreciation memory in order to help us get our relational circuits (RC’s) back on and be able to relate better with God and others. In this part I want to talk about a part of the brain that Dr. Karl Lehman has named the […]
You May Have to Ride with a Skunk, but You Don’t Have to Brush Its Fur!
I love this quote taken from my book Jewels for My Journey. Dr. Jim Wilder said it to me when he was helping me learn not to beat up on myself when I failed, messed up, made a wrong decision or just plain irritated someone. He had much to say about that and there are […]
Pain Means Comfort is on the Way
Whenever I make this statement, ‘Pain means comfort is on the way,’ I see a look on people’s faces that seems to be saying, “You’ve gotta be kidding.” Comfort during pain doesn’t seem to be the norm in most of our lives and I have yet to say it to anyone who already understood it. […]
What is Joy? Part 2
In Part 1 I talked about joy buckets and keeping them full. But what is a joy bucket and why does it matter if it’s full or not? Everyone has a place in their brain that Dr. Jim Wilder has affectionately named the joy bucket. This part of the brain is where joy is built […]
What Is Joy-Part 1?
Every day I think about joy in one way or another. Knowing how to keep my joy bucket full and how to return to joy when upset has changed my life. Joy means “someone is glad to be with me; I’m the sparkle in someone’s eye.” Thanks to my mentor, Jim Wilder, I understand the […]