This excerpt about how we find our value from what causes us pain is from Chapter Nine in my new book, Re-Framing Your Hurts: Why You Don’t Have to Fear Emotional Pain. This is a very different way to view pain that I learned from Dr. Wilder in the 1990’s. It might encourage you to […]
Hesed–God’s Sticky Love
Recently I listened to a teaching by my friend and mentor, Dr. Wilder, on the Hebrew word, hesed. It touched me deeply and it’s something we all need to think about. Dr. Wilder tells a story that is personal to him. I’d heard him share it long ago, but again the story moved me in […]
Forgiveness or Pretending?
Lately I’ve been thinking about forgiveness and how sometimes it is pushed as the cure-all for relationship problems. All of us have bad days when we grumble, snip, argue, or generally want to be left alone and do not act like ourselves. When these responses hurt others, they can be quickly resolved by asking for […]
Addictions and Attachment Pain
What do you turn to for comfort when you are hurting? Sugar? Drugs? Alcohol? Chocolate? Food? Sex? Excitement? Activity? A bad relationship? Did you know that these things we turn to when we hurt are substitutes for what our brains really want? Our brains were designed by God to thrive on joyful, relational connection to […]
Relationship Ingredients for All Ages
Recently I was talking to a friend about some struggles she was having with her 10 year old daughter. My friend, who is a wonderful mom, was worried that she had messed up too many times and because of her own struggles with being open, would not be able to build the things with her […]
Seeing Through Heaven’s Eyes
This week I had a deep experience with Jesus when I went to Tennessee to help with my elderly parents after my mother fell and broke her leg. She is 90 years old and Daddy is 94. There are not many people my age with both parents still living and healthy, and facing losing them […]