Do you ever wonder why sometimes after a painful event, you just cannot get your feet back on the ground—even if you know God’s truth about the situation—while other times someone can say a word of truth and you pop right back up with less pain? There is a reason and it has to do […]
Another Aspect of Comfort after Validation
Last week I had an incident that caused some pain and I wasn’t sure if I was triggered or not. The gist was that I felt accused for something I did not have in my heart, and it hurt. Most of the time, I tend to think of these kinds of painful bumps as triggers. […]
Parenting Tip: The “Big Picture” of Life
In the late 90’s I learned about emotional maturity from Dr. Jim Wilder. His organization, Life Model Works, has a detail list of needs and tasks pertinent to each emotional maturity stage of life.* One of the maturity tasks for children towards the end of the Child Stage (ages 4-13) is to learn the “big […]
It’s Not About Feeling Better, It’s About Feeling
Had a great discussion the other day with a friend who asked some probing questions about ministering to someone in deep grief. We tossed around some thoughts about the differences in every-day negative emotions and deep emotions from grief. It’s my opinion that they are a bit different although there are some parallels. The six […]
Truth and Pain–Part Two
(This information on Truth and Pain is taken from material by Dr. Jim Wilder and Dr. Karl Lehman) Sometimes events happen that bring us lots of pain and, as we looked at in the last blog, a word of truth does not always take away that deep level pain we feel when not able to […]
Helping Young Adults Evaluate Possible Mates
I was going through some old files to prepare for a workshop that is coming up and I found an old paper that I had shared a few years back at a break-out group for young people. It seemed beneficial to share it with my blog-o-sphere. This is just a brief look at how to […]