Have you ever felt like you were alone? Have you ever desired to know Jesus better? Do you want to grow character to be like Him? If so, you will find an advantage when knowing and doing what Dr. Jim Wilder calls, “Sharing a mind.” Sharing a mind is part of synchronizing. (If you are new to relational brain science click here.)
Sharing a mind is one function in the relational Right Brain, which in my Joy Groups, we call the Sharing Center. When the Sharing Center is up and running, we read others’ faces and body language. We have empathy and we can dance. We can even tell when someone is not telling us the truth. In that part we also “share a mutual mind” with other people and with Jesus.
No Harmony Without the Sharing Center.
The Left Side of our brain cannot share a mutual mind. It’s only interested in words, solutions, explanations, and instructions. These things are not relational and leave us feeling alone if we live out of the Left Side. Living from the Left Side does not help us grow character or get closer to Jesus. Without the Sharing Center functioning, there is no harmony and joy in any of our relationships–with Jesus or other people.
So how can understanding and functioning in mutual mind help? What are some advantages of sharing a mind? Here in the Sharing Center, among other things involved with synchronizing, we can “see what Jesus sees” in another person or a situation. We can connect with Him and be on the “same page” as He is. If we are upset with someone we usually love, we can ask Jesus, “How do you see this person?”
We Can Know How Jesus “Sees.”
When circumstances are difficult, we can ask Jesus, “What do You want me to know about this?” We literally share a mutual mind with Him. When connected to Jesus, we don’t feel alone, we grow, and we get closer to Him.
Sharing a mind won’t work if our Relational Circuits are off because the Sharing Center is part of those relational brain circuits. Many of us try to do these connecting things with others and with Jesus, but we are doing it from the Left Brain that doesn’t care about connection and synchronizing. We can’t share a mind there because the Left Side runs too slowly and is not relational. The Relational Circuits are off.
In his book, Renovated, Dr. Wilder says, “Mutual mind states are created by visual cues and voice tone rather than words.” (page 16) These mutual mind states work with people (or Jesus) with whom we have an attachment. The people we love tell us who we are. The people we love share a mind with us..
This ability to share a mind in our Sharing Center is a big advantage for relating better. We can see others’ perspectives, create understanding, feel connected, and grow character. All these contribute greatly to harmony and joy in relationships. Being able to share a mind is a big motivation to keep the Sharing Center running well.
How do we then get “visual cues” and “voice tone” from Jesus? This article is good but I feel steps are being left out.
Thanks for your comment. The mutual mind sharing takes place in our “brain” and our heart and is easier when we have practiced knowing His “voice.” I hear tones and sometimes I ‘see’ visuals (not as much as some people do)But it is more of a sense to me that He is here, showing me what to see, do, etc. I think our spirits are involved too as that is where we know what we know. There aren’t really steps per se. It’s faster than steps because mutual mind is in the Fast Track. Having our brain on and synchronized and having an attachment to Jesus it just happens when we turn to Him.
I hope this helps some. Blessings, Barbara