It has been my observation now and then that many parents feel unsure about discipline. There is fear that they will be too strict or their child will be damaged in some way if disciplined. I would like to offer some thoughts on why discipline is good and necessary in spite of what our culture is telling us these days. […]
The Importance of Playing "Predator" Games during the Toddler and Preschool Years
The following “nuggets” about predator games with young children concern brain training that will build regulation of fear and aggression. They are compiled from lectures I heard in 2009 by Dr. Wilder and from my own experiences. This is not just about psychological training, but also is actual physical training in the brain. Predator games […]
Parenting Tip–Minimizing Upset
The following are a few tips that will help minimize upset beginning in the toddler years, but will also work as well when older. For as long as you can, use distractions to avoid escalating to “naughty.” Young children can be creatively distracted. Play children’s music CD’s or tapes in the car. Not only will the […]
Parenting Tip–Sharing Power
A few years back, I heard Dr. Wilder talking about sharing power. I think I already knew the principle without knowing the words to describe it and it was helpful to hear what he had to say about it. He writes extensively about power in his book The Red Dragon Cast Down. He says that children notice […]
Parenting Tip-Preventing Sibling Rivalry
Any family with more than one child wants help with preventing sibling rivalry. Even with one child, this beast can rear its head with cousins or friends. The best way to prevent or eliminate rivalry is by not negatively comparing your child to anyone else, especially a sibling. No comparing You will not have rivalry […]
Asking Forgiveness
Years ago I learned in a seminar the importance of asking forgiveness in a specific way. Most of us were taught to say, “I’m sorry,” even from an early age. When I learned this different way to seek forgiveness, it made sense and I have used and taught it ever since. When we hurt someone, it […]